#metoo in my business life

Almost four months ago, I sent a text message to an acquaintance in business, an entrepreneur I thought was my friend. I told him that Golden Age Models had a crowdfunding campaign on g and humbly wondered if he wanted to share it when it came up in my LinkedIn feed.

He replied "I’m going out with a crowdfund myself soon, don't want to water it down. I thought it went well for you.”
I replied, “It's going well. Hard to see how it would dilute your crowdfunding as we are in such a different area. And friends are friends not competitors I think. But I hear you and respect you. ❤️”

Now something is happening that I, as a woman and an entrepreneur, cannot put together. Or rather, what is happening every day for me as a woman and entrepreneur is now happening.

He says:
“But you, a short question. Your fight against the knife and the needles. Are you sure you didn't have cosmetic surgery yourself? Tricky question I know, as I have the answer.”

I'm completely taken aback. From what place in him did this come?:
Me:
"Not a difficult question at all, I answer, but none of your business. Of course I know.”

He continues.
"You've had surgery, after all. I understand that you are tempted to have cosmetic surgery, as you did. Nothing strange. That's the kind of thing women do. Now standard.”

I reply:
“Mr X, what do YOU ​​know about being a woman? For you and EVERYONE else to know: In 2008 I had surgery on my breasts, after having given birth and breastfed four children and the physical consequences. Something you are completely unaware of as a man. In 2010 I operated on them when an implant burst and I got industrial silicone all over my body and became very sick. Two years ago I was diagnosed with cancer because of this. The question is why I had surgery to begin with. My boyfriend wanted firm breasts. Are you happy now? Should you or I post this on LinkedIN?”

As you can see, I am now really angry. And offended.

He now put’s the final nail in his misogynist coffin:
"I've mostly just thought "Little cutie" when I've seen your posts, "I hope she doesn't get exposed." He continues as if he didn't even read my answer.

For me, this line is the absolute worst. I thought we had #metoo in our past, that men nowadays treated women well and with respect. Maybe not in the pub under the influence of alcohol, but in business life? My final response was this:
"You know. Never put yourself over me or any other woman. Never ever. It is because of men like you that society looks the way it does. Shame on you. I'm saving this conversation for a rainy social media day. And guess what? The man does not give up:
"I still think it's ok for you women to have surgery, as you did. I'd be mean if I threw you under the bus for that. I would never do that.”

Now it's been almost four weeks since this happened, and I'm still thinking about this and whether I should share it more with you. It's not just from a business perspective, but also as a woman. The condescending, insulting and diminishing way I am subjected. And I have come to the conclusion that it IS important to share, for my female colleagues in business, for the sake of my daughters and my sisters. And why wait for a rainy day?

Shama